How to Help Your Loved One Adjust to Having Elderly Care Providers

August 4, 2016

Elderly Care in New York NY

When it’s time to bring in help, you might find yourself surprised if your elderly loved one isn’t as on board as you would have liked. There are lots of reasons your loved one might not like the idea, but you can help her to change her mind.

Broach the Topic Gently

If you already know that your elderly loved one is resistant to the idea of having home care providers around, it’s a good idea to broach the topic as gently as you can. You want to offer your loved one a choice, but ultimately if you need help, this is a solid option. Try offering your loved one the choice of days that the elderly care provider comes by, for example. This is especially effective if you can be flexible about timing.

Call the Home Care Provider by a Different Title

For some loved ones, simply hearing the phrase “elderly care provider” is frustrating and implies that they can no longer care for themselves. Whether this is the case or not is a moot point, of course, but you do still need to consider your loved one’s feelings on the matter. Try calling the care provider your assistant or use another term that your loved one prefers.

Make the New Assistant’s Arrival about You

Another tactic that can help in this situation is if you make the arrival of your new “assistant” about you. That means that you let your loved one know that you’re the one who needs help, no matter what the situation actually is. In essence, this isn’t a lie because the elderly care provider is there to offer help to both you and your loved one.

Make Sure Everyone Gets Along

Every new situation means that the people involved need to get to know each other and get along fairly well. This takes a little bit of time, so it may take a few visits before your loved one has warmed up a bit. Keep your finger on the temperature of the situation and make changes if necessary.

Start out Slowly

By starting out slowly with fewer, shorter visits at first, you can help your loved one to realize that her elderly care provider is there to help her. As the situation warms up, you can increase the time that you’re away and the frequency with which your loved one’s home care providers stop by.

Hiring help can be a delicate proposition, but you can make the situation work for you and your loved one with some planning.

If you or an aging loved one are considering elderly care in New York, NY, contact Star One Home Care and Medical Staffing at 718-733-2222 or 914-362-0899.  Call today!

Patricia Coffie, RN, BSN, MFA

Patricia Coffie, RN, BSN, MFA

Director of Client Services at Star One Home Care
Patricia Coffie, RN, BSN, MFA is Director of Client Services & Director of Phoenix Nurse Aide Training Center. Before assuming the post in 2012, Patricia was the Director or Nursing & Service Delivery at WRC for 3 years where she was the strategic lead for nursing and services to members.

Patricia started her nursing career 19 years ago at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center and research institution in New York City, and since then has gained experience in Adult Intensive Care Units (ICU) , Pediatric Care (PICU ), Operating Room (OR) , mental health and community settings. She later moved into director of nursing roles, where she obtained extensive experience in leading and developing the nursing profession. She also pioneered good partnership working with other health care organizations, as well as social services, and the wider community.
Patricia Coffie, RN, BSN, MFA

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