National Common Courtesy Day

March 11, 2016

Elder Care in Chappaqua NY

You were probably raised to be polite, show courtesy, and treat others with respect and dignity, but how much do those life lessons really apply to your adult life? March 21 is National Common Courtesy Day, the perfect opportunity for you to really evaluate how politeness and common courtesy can truly improve your elder care journey with your aging parent.

Courtesy is something that you likely hear about nearly every day of your life, but that you may not really process in terms of how it applies to your life, how you care for your loved one, or how you expect her to receive care from an elderly health care services provider. Taking the time to really think about it and how you can implement courtesy into your daily care routine to improve your care as well as your relationship with your senior.

Some of the ways that you can start integrating more respect and courtesy into your elder care journey with your aging parent on National Common Courtesy Day and throughout the rest of the year include:

Respect her privacy – Privacy is something that everyone deserves regardless of age, limitations, and challenges. Make sure that you and your parent’s elderly health care services provider take steps to respect your loved one’s privacy every day with simple habits such as knocking on the door before entering the house or any room, allowing her time alone with friends, family members, or her partner, and not discussing any of her personal issues, challenges, limitations, or other problems with others without her permission.

Respect her dignity – Similar to privacy, dignity goes to a deeper emotional level. Respecting your parent’s dignity is about respecting that she is still an individual with her own needs, private space, and need to be treated as such. Respecting dignity is as simple as respecting her modesty in ways such as looking away when helping her get dressed, allowing her to handle as much of her bathing as possible, and allowing her to speak for herself to as far an extent as possible. This should also include making sure that she looks, feels, and smells her best so that she can feel good about herself. Take the time to help her bathe, style her hair, help her with her makeup, ensure her mouth is well cared-for, and other personal tasks to keep her self-esteem and confidence high.

Show your manners – The need for manners does not cease when you get to be an adult or because you are in a care relationship with your parent. In fact, keeping up with your manners is a way to ensure that you do not lose the important feature of your relationship being between a child and a parent, and not just a caregiver and a senior. Even if you are feeling rushed or stressed, or you are just doing a few quick tasks for your parent, make sure that you are using your proper manners. This means remembering “please”, “thank you”, “I appreciate that”, and “excuse me” even if your parent has limitations or challenges that you think make it so that she does not understand, or that keep her from communicating effectively back with her.


If you or an aging loved one are considering elder care in Chappaqua, NY, contact Star One Home Care and Medical Staffing at 718-733-2222 or 914-362-0899.  Call today!

Patricia Coffie, RN, BSN, MFA

Patricia Coffie, RN, BSN, MFA

Director of Client Services at Star One Home Care
Patricia Coffie, RN, BSN, MFA is Director of Client Services & Director of Phoenix Nurse Aide Training Center. Before assuming the post in 2012, Patricia was the Director or Nursing & Service Delivery at WRC for 3 years where she was the strategic lead for nursing and services to members.

Patricia started her nursing career 19 years ago at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center and research institution in New York City, and since then has gained experience in Adult Intensive Care Units (ICU) , Pediatric Care (PICU ), Operating Room (OR) , mental health and community settings. She later moved into director of nursing roles, where she obtained extensive experience in leading and developing the nursing profession. She also pioneered good partnership working with other health care organizations, as well as social services, and the wider community.
Patricia Coffie, RN, BSN, MFA

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