4 Tips for Dealing with Concerns about Your Elderly Loved One’s Driving

December 31, 2015

Elderly Care in Nassau NY

Your elderly loved one has probably been driving since before you were born. It’s a badge of independence for him, and he’s likely not going to admit that he’s having trouble driving. Sometimes,
though, your loved one may have issues that mean he can’t drive the way he used to and it’s important to know when it may be time for him to leave the driving to someone else.

Take a Test Drive Together

If you’re suspicious of your elderly loved one’s driving but you haven’t actually ridden with him in a while, then a test drive may be in order. You don’t have to let your loved one know that you’re scrutinizing his driving in order to talk to him about it. Some things to look for include speeding or going too slowly, ignoring traffic signals, or general poor driving. Talk to your loved one gently and in a straightforward manner about your concerns. It’s possible he doesn’t realize that his driving has gotten to a point where concern is warranted.

Talk to Your Loved One’s Doctor

Once you’ve determined whether or not there is truly cause for concern about your loved one’s driving, it’s a good idea to involve his doctor. In some states, doctors can recommend additional driving tests to the state Department of Motor Vehicles. This isn’t the case everywhere, however. Your loved one’s doctor can definitely let you know what your next steps should be and whether the problem is one that your loved one may be able to correct easily, such as with corrective lenses, or if it’s something more serious.

Consider a Driving Course for Seniors

If there are no health considerations, then it may be possible that your loved one just needs a refresher course to brush up on his driving skills. The AARP driving course is popular and available in most areas. Some people can even get discounts on their car insurance for taking these types of courses, so be sure to check into the benefits thoroughly.

Check with the DMV

In some states, you as a family caregiver can contact the DMV directly yourself. In these cases, there may be documentation needed from your loved one’s doctor and your loved one may need to take a full driving test in order to keep his driver’s license. This may be a last resort, however, since it can result in your loved one losing his driving privileges.

Your loved one’s safety is the biggest factor here, so be sure to lead with that in all discussions.

If you or an aging loved one are considering elderly care in Nassau, NY, contact Star One Home Care and Medical Staffing at 718-733-2222 or 914-362-0899.  Call today!


Patricia Coffie, RN, BSN, MFA

Patricia Coffie, RN, BSN, MFA

Director of Client Services at Star One Home Care
Patricia Coffie, RN, BSN, MFA is Director of Client Services & Director of Phoenix Nurse Aide Training Center. Before assuming the post in 2012, Patricia was the Director or Nursing & Service Delivery at WRC for 3 years where she was the strategic lead for nursing and services to members.

Patricia started her nursing career 19 years ago at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center and research institution in New York City, and since then has gained experience in Adult Intensive Care Units (ICU) , Pediatric Care (PICU ), Operating Room (OR) , mental health and community settings. She later moved into director of nursing roles, where she obtained extensive experience in leading and developing the nursing profession. She also pioneered good partnership working with other health care organizations, as well as social services, and the wider community.
Patricia Coffie, RN, BSN, MFA

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